Here's something else that's mildly ironic. Now that I've been spending a lot of time with Mary Ann I am completely sure that there's no romantic feeling there at all. If Lidia had let me keep a friendship with Mary Ann we may have lasted...

Mary Ann likes to do many of the same things I do. I mean I obviously wouldn't go to Vegas alone with her but I could have gone to sporting events and or some concerts and things that Lidia just had no interest in. This goes double or even triple for Samantha.

Although, I can totally understand that Lidia would be jealous of someone like Mary Ann. I know I was jealous of some male friends of hers. The difference is that I wouldn't expect her never to speak to them I just wanted to be aware that she was talk to them. It was the hiding of contact that really upset me. I can accept that Lidia would have male friends, it's normal, but let me know who they are and if you're talking to them a lot. (I really didn't expect to know about every little message, either.)

This is, of course, in relation to my unmet needs for intellectual stimulation and interesting conversation. We would still have had the whole sexual intimacy issue to resolve. So, maybe it was a good thing that Lidia could be so jealous and demanding at times like these.