Damn, it can sure take a long time to get over someone. At least that's how I'm feeling right now. I totally realize that it's only been 2 months and a week since she moved out and a lot less time than that since she sent me a text message. I know that that's not really long enough to heal yet.

I need to be strong for a lot longer. Even the support of friends and family can't really shorten the healing process. I need to do it for myself. I need to let myself feel sad when it comes on me and not try to avoid it. I am using REBT to find why these feelings get so strong.

I still am dealing with a lot of irrational beliefs in this sad situation. With the main one that's holding me back as: I hate feeling this way. I absolutely must not feel so sad. It sucks that I am feeling this sad. So, in trying to avoid this feeling altogether I am making it last longer.

Okay so to dispute this:

I may hate feeling this way but there's no good reason why I should not. After all, I AM feeling this way sometimes so whether I like it or not I better deal with it. It is getting less and less strong over time so I just have to wait it out longer too. I AM doing all the right things in order to get over this. I will give them more time to work.

I AM going out with a very nice woman who I like quite a bit and I am taking things slow with her. I will not jump right into a new relationship with someone I don't know very well. I am getting to know her better and I enjoy finding out more about her. I have a lot of fun when we go out. I think she feels the same toward me but again, it's too early to have that kid of discussion yet.

Time will tell for many of my issues.